In a recent episode of his podcast, Tim Ferriss recounted a discussion he had with executive coach Jerry Colonna. In that discussion, Colonna mentioned four powerful questions that I feel are worth keeping top of mind:
- How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want?
- What needs to be said that isn’t being said?
- What’s being said that I’m not hearing?
- What am I saying that’s not being heard?
In particular, the first question has been rattling around in my head quite frequently whether I’m thinking about a situation at work or when our two-year-old refuses to eat dinner. It’s helpful in framing the “extreme ownership” philosophy popularized by Jocko Willink.